Children learn mostly by example, and they rely on their parents for training. Therefore, a proper upbringing of a child includes the behavior of parents in certain situations. It is not so relevant what you say to your child. It is what you demonstrate to your child with your action that they will learn from, that’s why psychologists always urge parents to look at their own behavior in the first place, and not to complain that their child has been disobedient and aggressive. After all, children copy their parent’s behavior. That is why you should pay very close attention to your behavior and understand what you shouldn’t do in front of children.
Here are four things parents shouldn’t do in front of your their children:
1. Stop using swear words
If a child overhears their parents always using an offensive language, the child will also start using the word. Usually, this happens at the most inappropriate moment because profanity use is normal for his parents. Your child does not understand why these words are foul and why it is inappropriate to say them out loud. You need to stop all the use of bad language around your kids.
2. You should stop lying
You want your child always to tell you the truth. At the same time, you and your spouse frequently lie to each other, to other people, to the child. Your child will not compliant with your instructions that “lying is bad.” After all, he or she sees that mom or dad is lying all the time. Besides, mommy and dad for the child are superheroes. Kids like to copy their superheroes.
3. Stop violate safety regulations
First of all, parents need to remember this. If you, as a parent, cross the road unlawfully, smoking, drinking, fighting, or conduct any toxic behavior, then your child will do the same. Parents must follow all the safety rules that the child requires because children tend to imitate what their father and mother do.
4. Stop fighting and yelling
Fighting in front of your children is not a perfect example to set as a parent. If there are disputes between you and your spouse resulting in the form of assault, yelling, destruction of property like broken dishes, TV, or even violence, then this is the pattern of behavior your child will learn as imminent for provocative situations. Conflicting children are descendants of conflicting families. The child repeats everything he or she sees. Don’t be surprised if your fights at school and start destroying school property. Therefore you and your spouse need to control your aggressive behavior during conflicts and make sure that you both resolve your disputes behind closed doors.